When people, things or situations trigger us emotionally – and this means we get uncontrollably irritated, resistant, upset, angry, jealous, helpless, guilty, quiet and withdrawn, overpleasing, stroppy or sulk – it is a sign for wounds that are hidden within us and that we have been carrying for a long time since our childhood and formative years, and most likely even as past life carry overs.
Every emotional charge or psychological check-out is a signal that tells us we have an unresolved issue. But every autopilot reactivity is also an invitation to heal. Each emotional trigger offers an opportunity to go to the actual root cause, and transform and find closure with the topic or trauma at hand. It just requires our willingness to selfresponsibly face our icky feelings and long forgotten burried grief.
A clear confirmation for a successful, permanent healing within us is this: if we come across a familiar old trigger and stay calm – remain physically, biochemically, emotionally and mentally neutral. When we have ‚miraculously‘ shifted from unconscious reacting to conscious responding, or just remain in serene observation.
In this day and age, no one is free from trauma, misunderstandings, limited identifications and suboptimal manifestations. Parents, ancestors and authorities, society and collective imprints are key influencers and confusers in our lives. And the implications are huge, for each person, as well as society at large.
This means, for people to live peacefully and harmoniously with each other on this planet, every individual is required to do their inner homework, the healing and clearing of the space within. Replacing fight, flight, freeze or fawn reactivity with equanimity and a state of beingness that is free of emotional charge, resistance, judgementalness and assumptions.
There is no way around our own individual introspection, inner clearing and maintenance work because nobody can do it for another. Each one is their own healer and master. In fact, the real path of yoga is about the union with our real selves, spiritual selves. It is about a our committed search for truth, our courage to uncover all false programmes in us, rejecting all distractions around us and remaining uncorruptable.
Regular stillness meditation to calm the nervous system down and increase self-awareness, holistic soul healing and energetic alignment, integrative bodywork as well as comprehensive detox (body, home, relationships), wholesome sattvic food and time in nature have proven to be a very effective combination to dissolve emotional charge and autopilot reactivity permanently.